When children have started their lives in foster care, or as orphans, they can often face more struggles and challenges than your average child. However, when they are given the right support, changes can be made, and an impact can be seen. So, what can foster parents and adoptive parents do to make this change, and give them the best start possible?
Listening to the Children
When you are fostering or adopting children of any age, it is important to listen to what they have to say and listen to how they feel. Even the smaller and younger children will have many emotions and feelings that they wish to share, and it is your responsibility to listen. If you are not listening, then you are not aware of what they are experiencing or what they are going through. Children may see things differently from what adults do, but you still need to take time to look at what they are going through and listen to how they are feeling and seeing things. If you do not listen, you are not valuing their opinion, and this can cause issues and stress later down the line.
Seek Support from Agencies
When you foster or adopt, you need all the support and guidance that you can get. You do not have to go through everything alone, and you should not attempt to do this. The more support you can utilize and take on board, then the easier everything will be. When you are seeking support, it is always best to reach out to those trained and experienced professionals. For example, the FCA will always be on hand to guide you through fostering and help you manage situations and expectations. When you reach out to others, you embrace the situation, and you make the best out of it.
Emotional and Physical Support
Children who do not have the best start in life often need more emotional and physical support than you may initially realize. Being there for children and letting them know that you are there is crucial. When children’s emotional needs and wants are nurtured as much as their physical needs are, then you will find that they become more open and honest with you, and they begin to build trust. Starting slowly and showing children that you care is going to be important and beneficial.
Stability and Security
Children need to feel security and stability in the home, and they need to know that they are wanted, valued, and appreciated. When you provide security and stability for children, you give them the space to grow and develop. If they do not have any stability in their home life, then they may not be prepared to try new things or to put themselves out there. To build security and stability within their lives you must listen, you must care, and you must make time for children. When children have stability and security in their lives and their home, nothing can stop them from pushing themselves and achieving what they want.